Human relations have so many analytical features. All of us have two types of relation as private and public. The bond of faith makes relations vibrant and deep. Natural demands invariably track relations in different directions. An intense relation is a blend of sincerity, attachment and trust. Natural links and connections of a person in the society, need not become points of reference here. Relations generally exist on instinctive demands. We all go through many ups and downs in life and the impact of such experiences significantly affect our relations. A relation which we value the most now, can perhaps become unimportant in future. The possibilities of beginning new relations are always open and such relations can sometimes affect the existing relations. Good relationships provide the feeling of security, companionship and attachment. Those who fail in keeping proper relationships with others, generally remain neglected individuals. But we all have the freedom of choice in keeping relationships. It is a mechanism of going in tune with natural situations and social customs.
We have many typical characteristics in dealings with others. It is better to begin with the main features of the customs we follow in public dealing. We ourselves draw the boundaries of our external indulgence and work within the capacities we have. The marking of people in our society itself is the initial process of making public relations. We select people from the society and put them in various compartments so as to develop distinctive relationships. The diversity of our public groups shows our flexibility in making companionships. Sometimes we see people who fit everywhere in public life. You can probably have a lot of relationships if you have the will to make adjustments here and there. Patience and acceptance of individuality can bring you a many companions. But a relationship for self needs can definitely be unimpressive since mutual involvement is missing there. Loyalty and obedience can also be helpful for your public relations. But sometimes these things can evoke expectation for those who have crooked intentions for exploitation.
Let us come to the bond of friendship next, since it marks well your identity in public life. Others naturally try to judge you on the basis of your companions simply because of the fact that choices reflect tastes. Though you have a variety of social gatherings, a few might be very special for merry making and also for consolation. It can be in the closest gatherings that you possibly open your self within, without limitations or inhibitions. Such gatherings become comfort-zones which make you relieved from your distresses. You might be open-hearted and sincere in your relations with your closest friends. You possibly share even your private secrets with them because of your faith in them. If they make such secrets, topics of merriment in other gangs, problems arise. You need to keep away from those who take everything a matter of public celebration. Those who join you just for merry making, can never be your real friends. Quite often good companionships develop to the level of private relations which provide you the real feel of unity.
Parental relation is particularly special in childhood. Genuine perfection of faith can be observed from the eyes of the infant held close to its mother. Parental affection gives the child the comfort of supreme security. Small children start doing everything just watching the reflex from their parents. The anxiety they naturally have in public deal, can well be observed from this attitude. This type of innocence in dealing seems to vanish as they become mature. All parents definitely keep the funny moments of their children deep at hearts. As children grow, the feeling of self dependence develops naturally and they start learning from the things they watch around. The home background has an important role in the relationships they make in future. Their ways and means can no way be different from those of the initial start-up. Childhood is really too short and the changes thereafter are fast and amazing. The depth of parental attachment naturally gets diminishing after their exposure out in public places.
The search for influential persons guides us to the patrons behind our colorful appearances. Generally they need not be our parents even. It can always be a relationship of gratitude that we probably have with our patrons. The guidance we get from such individuals becomes the element of motivation throughout the journey of life. All of us like to keep healthy relationship with such patrons since the element of attachment is so strong there. Those who help us, expecting nothing in return, always remind us about our duties and responsibilities in mutual dealings. We also need to become the patron of someone around and that too becomes a close relationship later. The true spirit of relationship is based on our will to help those in need. We cannot expect a bond of relation in return, if we don't have the attitude to give it out to some one else. The care and consideration we give for others assure our place in their hearts. Memories of strong relationships remain colourful up to the end of life.
Marital relation is the one which has to be viewed from various angles. The ways of getting together and also the social customs we follow, become influential factors in this relation. Marital relation is very different from other relations for its possessiveness. Conveyance of understanding is the potential factor which makes the relation colourful. The partners need to feel their hearts beyond words. Open comparison of your partner with other individuals, might be taken as an ugly greed for your suppressed intentions. The very moment you start blaming your choice, things start falling upside down. The relation which is forced to continue on external pushes cannot possibly be successful. Marital relations sometimes become dominant with irregularities and these irregularities result in sudden breakups. Majority of the married, face many serious issues which they purposefully conceal. We can have some observations on the basis of a few exposures. Quite often the couples do not like to reveal their experiences publicly, for the fear of insults. What feels like a tragedy inside might just be a comedy for an outsider. We have the general tendency of peeping into the secrecy of others even though the same thing is happening in our homes.
The relationships old people form, during the period of negligence from others, also need to be mentioned here. Generally all responsibilities of the old people end as they hand over their possessions to the successors. It would lead to strange experiences when they restart the journey with zero balance again. The very moment they start urging for their needs, problems arise. Just an advance care for future might have certainly assured their freedom. Why should they surrender everything for youngsters and become victims of the customs? They really like to get into the companionships of merriment and enjoy the best. Nobody should be allowed to draw lines across their dreams since they too deserve the freedom of choices. The western people are far ahead with systematic planning for making their future comfortable. The main things they focus are for travelling and also for getting new desirable companions. They get miraculous support from the youngsters in their family too. The youngsters in the eastern parts of the world do not generally like this approach since they are selfish and greedy. When the remarriage of grandfather or grandmother becomes a special occasion of celebration in the West, it just becomes the worst unbearable thing for the youngsters in the East.
As an individual, you intentionally try to comfort yourself in many possible ways. For instance if you consider the educational status of a person in making companionship, it becomes intentional. It need not become a matter of discomfort for others, since you certainty have the freedom of choice. More over in certain cases it becomes inevitable to check such things. Problems arise, only when you intentionally try to make use of relations, neglecting consideration for others. Relations become meaningful only when the other side also get the same comfort that you get. When you face something bad, you need to open it out to the dearest for getting their valuble support. Those who care you, will never leave you anywhere and there we see the real spirit of companionship. Sometimes you get unexpected supports from unknown hands. Those who serve others, expecting nothing in return, mark well their existence here. Your trials too can uplift you to the extreme status of honour which is nothing other than self sacrifice.
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